Not the best at writing but here it goes. I've been married for 3yrs now and all I've heard is nothing but bad things just like most family drama.Im 40 and husband is 58. He's been married and has grown kids. One of them lives about an hr away but he's always blamed his dad for not staying married to his mother or his stepmom, husband helped him but the son lost a load of money and other things,now he's kept his kids/fam away from my husband and wants nothing to do with him. They both pretty much don't care for each other.Husband has told me how he has wanted to meet his only grandkids and I've told him I can't really get too much into it but.."Since you msg his wife why don't y'all set a date to meet?" he's told me it wouldn't work out and that his son wouldn't accept us and or me cus of who I am (Transgender) that he's just one of those guys who's against all that we are. So,since I've been married we've tried and tried to get my MIL to come visit us. She finally decided to make the trip after 3yrs.We told her we had all this stuff planned and since she's been here we've changed a few things because of weather and what not. Ever since she got here I noticed she had been messaging someone. Which hey it's her phone and she can do as she wants.Well yesterday knowing that she's just here til Sunday early morn and we had plans for Saturday all day and as we were going to dinner, again she was on phone non stop. Well,without saying anything to anyone she decided to make plans with my husband DIL.My husband was mad because she just brought it up out of nowhere and wouldn't stop talking about it at the restaurant.Later in the evening we(husband and I) were having a conversation that quickly went South and he got really mad and said "There's not much I can do, It's not my fault my mom is forcing me to do this and forcing me and my son to make up" after a few other words I got up and left to sleep in one of the spare bedrooms.During the night he kept going for me so I could come to bed so his mother wouldn't know about it and I said NOPE I'm staying here. Well this morn they went shopping for gifts and when they came back he kept insisting me to get ready. I said No! All my life I've been forced to do things,things I don't want to do, especially being around fam,fam that doesn't even speak to me now. So no I am not going and If you want to go because you're mother is forcing you to do something you have no desire to do, well that's on you. He walked away and said "I thought we were a team but guess not" I replied back and said Guess not.. and he slammed the door. So AITAH for not joining in this last min lunch date?