My mother has breast cancer. She just had her double mastectomy and I know she is going through some heavy emotions. She also cheated on my father and has a new lover..so it's a complex and scandalous time for her socially, stigma-wise.

Before her surgery she had a farewell party for her breasts at a bar where she put spinning nipple tassles on everyone's shirts and got wasted. She sent me videos and pictures of the affair partner wearing tassles and making them spin. INSIDE I WAS SCREAMING WTF because I set a boundary about being no contact with her lover... I don't want to hear about him or see him, but I didn't fight with her.

Apparently, she also had a photographer come and take professional photos of her in a big feathery 3ft-wide Las Vegas showgirl hat with her breasts out. She posted it to her Facebook along with her senior picture from high school saying "this is me then, this is me now."

I haven't said anything to her and I feel like I'm the AH for even thinking of the fact that she is a business owner and might not want those pics to surface publicly. My grandmother (her mom) was a pastor before retirement and some of our family is pretty conservative. I don't know if it's empowering for her and I'm just letting my own personal feelings of embarassment creep up...or if I need to enlist the help of a therapist. I've begged her to go for years and she refuses.

WIBTA if I said something to her about protecting herself? Is this something that I should leave alone and accept her doing her own thing on her own terms?