I’m engaged and will be a 2026 bride, we already signed a contract and will be getting married in about a year I’m super excited and truly can’t wait. However my grandparents are being unbearable and are not understanding it’s not up to them who I invite and they are making me out to be a bad person for not inviting more then half family. They are saying I need to send an invite but I absolutely refuse to invite my aunts and uncles to the wedding and same with most of my cousins. They were never kind going up and honestly overall are just bad people who don’t have any empathy or accountability. They always pointed out your flaws and always put you down and always covered for the problem people and acted like they were saints. Every event growing up I remember my cousins going between people and bringing up old family drama just to start a fight which it worked most the time.. There’s also a lot of bad blood anyway because of what my aunts kids did a few years ago which caused the family to no longer get together on holidays. My fiancé already said they weren’t going to be invited because every interaction he had with them was them putting me down in some way. He refuses to let someone put me down on our day knowing he can avoid it. I always forgave and moved on with so many things in my life because that’s just who I am I don’t normally hold grudges but this last event I couldn’t forgive because it impacted me severely plus no one ever apologized so how do you forgive? So I haven’t had contact with anyone other then my parents, grandparents and siblings the last 5 years. Here’s where it blows my mind, my cousin the same one who started so much just got married a couple months ago and my parents, siblings and myself weren’t invited so I figured it would be cool for me to do the same without worry but now my grandparents are saying I’m an ahole and should be able to forgive and invite them but I know they haven’t changed and are still horrible people and I just don’t see how it was okay for them to do it but not for me. So is that the case aita?