I (now 35F) met my late ex (now 41M) when I was 19 and to be honest this was not just completely in love at first sight. I was actually dating someone else who was in jail (not very important). The first night we hung out was fine we had a group hang out and I knew quickly he had a thing for me. The next time we hung out (I was then 19) he kept touching me, I said no a couple times, but then when the alcohol took over and I "agreed", even with my other friend passed out right next to us. Well I got pregnant and found out on my 20th birthday (I have a birthdate in the last few days of the month). I knew he was the father. He did care about me and the baby, he even got her footprints tattooed, against his moms wishes to get a paternity test (yes she is his). I lost my twentys along with his affection by 27 (never married) I developed a drinking problem which I'm still dealing with (now 35f) but my daughter has developed a hatred against me. We were doing better till about 2 months ago. She is almost 15 now and she just broke up with her first serious boyfriend, which breaks my heart, she was so broken and calling me everyday even at lunchtime at school. Then a few days later she dropped the bomb, she lost her virginity to him less than a month before him breaking up with her! I devised a plan to get her a woman's exam (which she should have had already)behind her dads back, since she didn't want to tell him. She then told me that she would just tell her dad just "to make things easier". I told her ok. A couple weeks past and I told her if she didn't talk to her dad about this and get an exam scheduled then I would talk him. Now she has told him and he has talked to his mom and oldest daughter (23f not mine) and they both said that she doesn't need any exam because she isn't showing any signs of an STI. Which is not the point! Now my daughter is pissed at me, blocked me, and throwing my past against me (alcoholism which I have been sober for over a year and still going to therapy and AA for) So AITA?