I met my friend Sara's boyfriend at a party 5 months ago, and Sara knew of him through mutual friends at the time. I got along really well with him (I'll call him Nick), and we share common interests. Back then, they didn't even properly know eachother as Nick and I started becoming friends, but she did express an interest in him from the very start. They hit it off and have been dating and official for 2 months now. Nick and I's friendship has progressed as well. To make one thing clear, we have no interest in eachother, not romantic or sexual and have not made Sara believe otherwise. However, she tends to read our messages. Not because she mistrusts his faithfulness but because she loves finding things to get mad at. When they fight, I somehow end up In-between everything and she lands in our messages and asks me questions he didn't want to answer. This makes me feel really uncomfortable and violated. Not only do I feel my right to privacy is disrespected, but my trust misused. After expressing my feelings, Sara said that if I didn't want her reading my messages, I needed to stop talking to Nick because that is her boyfriend, after all. But he is still also MY friend. I don't have anything to hide in our messages, but it feels extremely weird knowing there's someone reading your texts at all times looking for clues or suspicious things to ask me later. She doesn't see how her behavior is weird. Should I stop talking to him? I have known Sara for a little over a year, and we have been friends actively for less than that. But we do consider each other good friends and value each other's friendship. Am I in the wrong for wanting to talk to her boyfriend freely?