Me (25/F) and my husband (28/M) are married since 2.5 years. We are right now in a long distance relationship. We meet once or twice a month and really enjoy our time together. We were having a very beautiful relationship so far, with some conflicts and hardships in between, which we faced together and were going on strong.

Recently, my husband and his friend got into an argument with few drunk localites during a fest, where one of the guys had beaten him and his friend without any provocation. They were many in number and he couldn't defend himself much. He got few bruises on face. His self respect got shattered and he is extremely upset with all that happened. Its been few days now and all he can think about is taking revenge on those guys.

Me, his family friends everyone is now trying our best to talk him out of it. I have been trying my level best to support him in this difficult phase of his life and help him heal. So, today while we were talking, he was going on about the revenge thing. I told him, I don't want him to get hurt again. He said he can't guarantee that and even if something happens to him, he want to make peace with his conscience. I asked him concerned, whether he had thought about what will happen to me, if anything bad happens to him. For which he replied, my thoughts don't cross his mind now. And he asked me, when were we really a couple, hinting to our long distance relationship, and told me "I am going to be frank with you, your presence or absence, it didn't really ever matter to me". I was shocked to hear that. He was okay with our long distance relationship. But I never expected that he will say those kind of hurtful things.

As much as I want to believe that he said that out of the stressful situation he is going through right now, my mind cannot stop thinking it over. I want to know, why he said so, after all this love, care and efforts I hace been giving him all this while.

WIBTAH, if I confront him and ask him that right now? Is it justifiable for him to tell me whatever he said because of his current personal struggle?