I'm 35 (M), and my girlfriend is 27 (F). We dated for five months, and we only had one disagreement without any shouting; we resolved it. On our first date, I mentioned visiting my female friend who lives in India for two weeks (I live in the UK) and showed her holiday pictures. She met my whole family and they love her. My girlfriend met my friends at a party my female friend hosted last weekend. On our third date, she shared that she hadn't dated in three years. When she asked about my past relationships, I shared a lot of detail, including intimate information, which upset her. At the party, my longtime female friend hosted it; she's bubbly and kind and was very welcoming to my girlfriend, even saying I was lucky and that my girlfriend is so pretty. My girlfriend seemed to get along with her, and they were both smiling while my friend shared stories and old photos. My female friend asked me for some help in the kitchen since I'm a good cook and I knew where everything was since I'm familiar with her house.

After the party, back at my place, I thought everything was fine, but my girlfriend asked me to book her a taxi to the train station. We live in different cities, about four train stops apart, and since I had been drinking, I couldn't drive her. I was surprised because she was supposed to spend Easter with my family and Monday with me before returning to work on Tuesday. She remained polite and asked for the taxi. I asked her what was going on, and she said she needed time alone and to sleep. I booked the taxi. She didn't kiss or hug me goodbye. I didn't want her to leave, so I got in the taxi with her, saying something was wrong, and we'd sort it out. With tears in her eyes, she said my friends were lovely, but she didn't want to be with a man who had close female friends. She acknowledged I'd known them longer than her and wouldn't ask me to leave my friends, adding that, so far, I might be trustworthy. She knew I'd slept with one of the girls in my friend group, and while there's nothing going on now, and I only say hi to her, it made her uncomfortable. She said it wasn't about insecurity or jealousy, but self-respect, and that every guy she'd been friends with had tried to make a move on her, suggesting these friendships aren't genuine. She also said seeing all the photos of me and my female friend together left a sour taste in her mouth. She said she'd rather end it and find someone who doesn't have close friends of the opposite gender. She also knew that I often talked to my female friends and went out with them one-on-one for drinks, which I paid for, and she didn't like that.

I really don't want to lose this girl, and we haven't spoken in five days. I thought I'd met the one and was ready to settle down. She is a truly good woman, a rare find. I only want her; my friends don't compare to her.