My bf and I were getting ready for the gym and he was showing me a photo on his phone on gallery mode though where you can see all the thumbnail pictures and out the corner of my eye I saw a picture of a women sticking her tongue out.

I am not a jealous or insecure person but in that moment my heart sank as a few weeks prior we had nearly broken up and instantly my mind went all sorts of places.

I said to him ‘what was that’. He quickly pulled his phone back give a smirk and didn’t give me an answer. He started to act strange and I said ‘you are trying to move the conversation on aren’t you’ to which he replied yes with a little smile and nervous laugh. I pointed out that if he’d seen a picture of a man on my phone we’d be having a very different conversation which he didn’t respond to. But then came out with something that made non sense about sending a picture to his friend for a birthday thing - complete bll*ks. I said that doesn’t even make sense and got no further comment.

Now, what I will point out is that his ex-wife they split up 4 years ago and for context we have been together for 2 years ago, we are very different. She is alternative with bright dyed hair, piercings and tattoos. The women in the picture had the same bright hair and so assumed it was a picture of her. What I didn’t know was why and why are you being so cagey about it all as it’s come across sinister and suspicious.

We were heading to the gym in separate cars so he could go home after for a shower. We got in his car and drove off. I got in mine and cried. I don’t know if it’s the photo, what I thought the photo could represent or how he’d behaved.

I contemplated not going to the gym but when I pulled up he immediately opened my door and said it really is all innocent and it’s just embarrassing really. I said I don’t want to talk about it now we can talk later.

Jump forward a few hours he comes over and says. I had been going through his phone found old pictures of her and deleted them and they were in the deleted folder and the picture had their son in it. He said he just handle it very strangely.

I would never doubt him in the past but I don’t believe him. If it was so innocent why would you not just say oh it’s a picture of this see and she me. It makes no sense to be cagey with me, no sense to make something up about sending it to your friend or why that would be embarrassing.

He often tells me I blow things out of proportion but I’m still mad. Am I right to find the whole thing suspicious or should I accept what he said and move on?