I (22 F) have been with my boyfriend (30 M) for just over a year. We’re both quite unsocial people so “we” have been slow to meet the family etc. I’ve met his mum and we adore each other, she makes me feel like part of the family. However I still have not met his dad. His dad lives 3 minutes walk from where we live, I’ve mentioned this is odd but he reassures me that it’s because his dad is either too poorly or he doesn’t get to see him that often and that he will take me to meet him soon.

I’ve asked him on countless occasions to meet my best friend, we are closer than two people should ever be, I love her and her daughter (my god daughter) more than life and I see them almost every day and it’s taken him until a couple of weeks ago to actually meet her… On the day that my dad died, so it wasn’t under the best circumstances to say the least. I’ve also invited him to family celebrations, Christmas/birthdays, I’ve asked if he’d meet to meet my grandparents or siblings but he always has a reason why he can’t.

My mum died 3 years prior to this, I tried to get my boyfriend to meet my dad but he always made excuses as to why he couldn’t.

My dad’s funeral is coming up in a few weeks and I asked him to come with me for moral support. He said “no, because I never knew him it would feel wrong to go to his funeral”

I feel really deflated and almost silly for just assuming he would be there for me at a time like this.. AITA for being upset about this?