I’ve been with my boyfriend and apart of his family for almost 8 years, since high school, and now we are 23 and 24. My boyfriend’s brother is 25 and his gf the same age. My boyfriend’s brother and I do not even live together yet, doing everything by the book, I am getting a Master’s degree in nursing and he is working a blue collar job. We are working together towards buying our own home and having our own life built from the ground up.

Now this girl shows up about 2-3 years ago maybe? She comes from money, she’s the polar opposite of her boyfriend (my “BIL”) as in she likes to drink and vape and he has never touched these things in his life. For the first 6 months of their relationship he went off to some sort of schooling (not going to specify) so the first year of their relationship he was gone for 6 months with very minimal contact. As soon as he came finished he bought a house himself and she moved immediately right in, not paying a dime. After not even truly being physically present with each other for more than a year? I thought wow she’s probably so happy she gets to move straight into a house and not have had to work for it at all.

Now a YEAR later, maybe less? She’s pregnant and says “it was so unexpected 🤣🤣.” This girl has not been humble since she showed up 2 and a half years ago. She says that the house he bought was for her, she’s fought with my FIL and MIL on more than one occasion (also causing my FIL and BIL not to speak for months) I’ve never said a cross word to them out of respect for my boyfriend in nearly 8 years and BOY have I wanted to. She also said she uses him as her DD because he doesn’t drink. So to be told that this entitled person walked into a picture perfect life, rubbed it in everyone’s face and is now “accidentally pregnant” when he thought she was on her bc and he was making plans to go back to school and do some traveling with his friends? And mind you this is his FIRST long term relationship EVER.

Am I valid to be angry? Am I valid to feel that this is completely rushed and a slap in the face to me and my boyfriend who really love each other and have worked for everything we got? I thought I reserved the right to at least give them their first grandchild. But they’ve stripped the limelight from us since she showed up and now I only imagine it’s going to get worse.

Opinions?