Ok so wondering if aita here. Me (F30) Friends sister F(28) For context let’s start. My best friend and I grew up together she has a younger sister and we have a interesting friendship she has always felt like a sister to me and so does my friend we have even called each other sisters. My daughter is essentially there niece I have found out recently for years after leaving my daughters father abusive ex partner said sister has been talking behind my back making rude and nasty comments about me. She told several people she wasn’t surprised cps was involved with my daughter after all the abuse towards me not my daughter from my daughter’s father I did get away unfortunately it hasn’t gone to court yet. But probably will eventually. We do have an agreement in place in the mean time to keep me and my daughter safe. She also made comments I couldn’t afford toys or clothes etc and I was a terrible mother and didn’t deserve my daughter I also wasn’t working at the time so money was tight and toys were either used or donated to us or gifted same with clothes. Now that I do work suddenly I am now awful because I cannot afford a vacation for us to all go on. We went on a big trip a couple years ago that I did spend years of savings on. Now moneys been tight and its been harder to save with a-lot of bills going up groceries clothes etc. I do pay rent and other bills for us to live and try my best to live within our means. Aita if confront her if these comments continue to happen. Also my friend is currently pregnant after years of infertility I am very happy for her. I made a statement that I wouldn’t mind watching the baby sometimes. I got a comment saying from her sister saying id have to fight people for that. Now behind my back she said nobody should trust me to watch there baby since I barely raised my daughter which simply isn’t true. Her family watches my daughter for me while I work otherwise shes in school during the day. I love my daughter to bits but my work schedule does prevent me from seeing her in the evenings so I make the most time in the mornings I do have her and weekends. I may not be able to afford luxury items but I don’t see how that makes me less of a mother because of it. Also I am getting all the information from the sister’s best friend who felt I should know how I am being talked about including my daughter. Fyi currently cps isn’t involved anymore not on my end directly at least on her father’s side they are they do inform me if anything new comes up that I need to be aware of though. Id like some advice going forward how to approach this. I don’t think anyone else in her family knows about this as they have been rather helpful and loving. I will not explain the abuse that took place as I am still currently in therapy dealing with the trauma there.