I recently got back together with my ex girlfriend after 7 years. I cheated on her back when we first dated, she caught me by looking through my phone. I feel fucking horrible about it still, she was a very trusting person when we first dated and I knew what I was doing at the time. I am in a different place in life and have been trying to do better by her and be a good partner to her since she gave me a second chance. She has tried reconnecting with me over the years before we got back together, but would always end up going no contact with me suddenly because she was still not over what I did.

During those years I went through the hardest time of my life dealing with epilepsy and having a limited support network, which mainly consisted of my best friend who I live with now and who knows how to deal with my seizures if I were to have them, etc. He and I do have a very close, codependent relationship that she’s feels blurs boundaries.

My girlfriend mentioned wanting to move in together eventually, not now, but in the future. She’s been trying to trust me again, and told me she is trying to build something real with me, and wanted to know if we are on the same page. I told her I did want that and that we are on the same page.

One day last week I left my phone in the bathroom and she was extremely drunk. She ended up looking through my texts between my roommate and I, and saw how he said “she’s not moving in with us just so you know lol if it gets serious you guys can get your own place,” and how I replied “LOL it ain’t happening. I want to live with you I feel safer LOL. I would not feel safe, it’s so draining just dealing with her. She better never fucking ask me to move in with her cause she sure won’t like my answer LOL”

She confronted me about it and has been really upset over this considering she’s been trying to rebuild trust with me. I told her those were private messages and I was just processing my thoughts on the matter. Now I don’t know what to do. AITA?