I have not seen or talked to my grandma for years but it’s for a reason, my dad has been keeping up with her since her other kids aren’t close to her

My grandma(Mary) is 79, she used to live with her husband until he passed in December. Mary had that house for years, her kids grew up in it, so she doesn’t want to give it away. Over the years she kept things which ends up in a pile, she got an obsession with hoarding.

My dad had tried to get her out but she wants to stay there, piles of old toys, trash, blankets, food. No way was my dad going to get her out, he mentioned that the city wants to sell the house but Mary wasn’t going for it.

No way was my dad getting her out by himself, it was best to call professional people who are good with this stuff. I don’t think he realized she would have to stay with him which is why he called me, don’t know what made him think I was going to be the caregiver. A few months in, Mary lost her house due to the safety hazard of the entire house.

He wanted me to move Mary in since my house is big and I have enough rooms to let her stay, he said his apartment wouldn’t fit her since him and his girlfriend stay there. I get what he was trying to explain but it was no, I have my kid and only me. I told him he would have to find a home for her or call one of his siblings, he fussed at me because I’m the closest to her. I’m the ass because I won’t take her in, well in my dad’s words.