I 44(F) and my husband 43(M) were driving back home from work when our three children called us. For context we (my husband and I) moved out of our family home about a year ago, and left it in the care of our three children 26(F), 25(M), and 23 (M) who have been paying rent to stay. The house has some issues, as all older houses do. The kids had been telling us that the sink was clogged and wouldn't drain at all. My husband and I were worried that the kids wouldn't be able to do their dishes or anything. I had told them about a month ago that they should look into getting a plumber to fix it. Now, I absolutely adore my children, but they sometimes need a little more motivation than most. I reminded them multiple times to call a plumber, or I could call one for them and get it set up. I. The scenario we're taking about now, I had just called them the day before to ask if they wanted a plumber to come in on Monday. The day I called was a Friday. They said yes, and I had actually already called the plumber, so it was all set up. So, back to the scenario, we're in the car driving and our kids call. They called to tell us that they actually didn't want the plumber to come on Monday because the house was too "messy" and they'd be embarrassed because they didn't have enough time to get things ready for the plumber in just 3 days. I thought that was a little ridiculous because they all have time in the weekends to clean and make sure that the house is ready. I then told them that if me calling the plumber and getting it set up for them 3 days in advance is late notice, then isn't cancelling the plumber only 2 days in advance late notice? They said, "mom, we tried to tell you that we weren't ready but you insisted." I then said, "I'm just trying to help." They said, "mom, honestly we just can't afford it right now." I don't know what that was about because they have time to go on vacations with their friends all the time and buy new clothes and everything for themselves, so they should be responsible and make sure they have a working sink. they kept saying they just couldn't afford it and that they were worried about the house being messy. My husband and I left some things at the house, and the kids were supposed to be going through them, and they haven't yet (after almost a year) and they said they were embarrassed about having all of that stuff "strewn-about the house". I then said, " just let the plumber come, he won't care, it's fine." They continued to say they couldn't afford it. At this point, I was getting mad. I just started saying, "you won't let me do this for you, I just want you to have a nice living place" They said, "yeah mom, but you always TELL us what to do and don't ASK us." Honestly, I was upset by that. I started crying. They then just kept saying "mom" over and over, and I just kept saying to my husband, "please make them be quiet". My husband was not really listening and was focused on driving. I was upset that the kids weren't listening so I just started screaming so they would stop saying "mom" over and over. Honestly, at this point, I was done. I tried to do something nice for them and they wouldn't accept it. I told my husband to pull the car over, or else I would jump out. He didn't listen, so I told him again. He ended up pulling over. I was just crying for a while, but then the kids agreed to have the plumber come, just a little bit later in the week. The kids seem very happy to have a working sink now. Unfortunately, my husband is upset by how I handled the situation and said I genuinely scared him by "threatening to kill myself". I told him he was overreacting and that I wasn't actually going to do it, I just wanted him to listen to me. He said I, "acted like a child" and that he just needs some time to think. He's been sleeping in our guest room for the past couple nights and I don't know what to do. AITA?