So, this just happened...

I parked at the lot near my girls' school for pick-up, which is also where the city baseball/softball fields are. While waiting in my car, I saw an older lady pull up, park crookedly (taking up 2 spaces), and then proceed to get her old black Labrador out of the car to go for a run (and a poop) on the newly mown softball field. I happened to have paper & a pen in the car, so I wrote a note. I wasn't rude (I thought), but asked if she could perhaps be more considerate and not park taking up two spots during the busy school pick-up time, and consider taking her dog to one of the MANY dog parks in our city instead of letting it poop on the field.

I got out of my car (in view of the other parents sitting and waiting in their cars) and tucked the note on her windshield and walked to my kid's classroom door to meet her (and potentially avoid confrontation).

When we got back to my car, my note had been returned to the windshield of my car, with big letters saying KISS MY ASS!! She found my note, and probably confronted some other poor parent in another car near hers about "who wrote this," and they probably pointed my car out for her.

And I realized that no matter what my intentions were, I shouldn't ever expect anyone to happily accept unsolicited advice or guidance. I was lucky all I got was a KISS MY ASS instead of a broken window or some such retaliatory gesture.

With having ADHD, I should know better than to invite this kind of drama into my life. I saw a wrong and wanted to "make it better", but instead, I opened a can of worms. My RSD is going to have me thinking about this and worrying about this for days and days (Did she see me? Does she know what I look like? Will she remember my licence plate? Am I really awful for having said anything? Why didn't I just keep my thoughts to myself? etc.). A note is about the same as a text; I could have THOUGHT my tone was light and reasonable, and the person reading it could've taken it another way entirely.

Ugh. Anyway. Just wanted to share.