AITA? So my fiance are getting married in two and a half months and a situation came up that caught me really off guard.

We’ve been wanting a specific puppy for a while now and just received an email saying a breeder has one for us and it’ll be available 8 months from now. We both got really excited and I said the timing would be perfect. He’s the one who really wanted this dog and he seemed hesitant and made comments, “are we going to be able to do this 8 months from now, will we be ready?” I said I thought we definitely would be and we would just have to make some life adjustments.

To preface this, we used to work together. I am a nurse and he is a cardiologist. We dated in secret for a year and a half and I eventually had to leave my job so we could date publicly. He makes about 10x more than what I make in a year. When I got a new job, I had to take a pay cut of $20,000. I ended up racking up 10k in cc debt. He paid it off for me but said I needed to pay him back.

Fast forward to us being engaged and about to get married, we are looking at getting this puppy. When asked what life adjustments would need to be made I said I would probably go part time, something we’ve talked about. He asked how I was going to do that and pay back the 10k. I was caught off guard because this hasn’t been brought up in over a year and I didn’t know it was something that bothered him. 10k is about 1/7 of my salary so it’s not something I can just pay back easily.

He mentioned there would be a prenup (something I’ve known about and we’ve discussed) but I explicitly asked for the prenup to be done back in January so I had time to review it with someone. The expectation is I’ll be a SAHM and give up my career which I’m okay with if I know I can trust my partner to take care of my financially but it does cause me anxiety as I’ve seen my mom make mistakes in the past and have become very independent after witnessing that.

Tonight he let me know his lawyer said the 10k “HAD to be in the prenup.” I said nothing needs to be in it that he doesn’t want in it. He got upset and said he doesn’t want to be out 10k if something happens.

Where do I go from here? I’m so upset because I feel like he’s viewing this as a stock market investment instead of a marriage. I let him know I would continue working full time and maybe we need to just get a less high maintenance dog.

Before you come for me- I already have an adopted dog and have always adopted in the past!! This is one he really wants and I think is super cute but will continue to adopt in the future as well!