2023 I changed my status to single on Facebook to make it official that I considered my relationship over despite telling the dude we were done. I have considered myself single but I live with my baby daddy. Let’s call him Dracula . We have one child together. (Side note I pay the electric bill and the house is his mother’s. He does not contribute toward the house other than buying groceries for himself.) It’s been a down hill slope of mostly verbal abuse. Holiday session of 2024 it got worse. He got physical with me bc he couldn’t handle stress at work. Cops were called but I didn’t press charges. Since then he been on “good” behavior. My issue is he still considers us in a relationship. Doesn’t respect my boundaries physically or verbally. Thursday night was the breaking point of no return. Dracula wants a BJ. He decided that at the moment we needed to put our child to bed that that’s when he wanted the BJ. Despite not wanting to I set our kid up to paint and watch 20 minutes worth of tv on my phone. We get interrupted three times. Each time I came back to his room he had his phone in hand mind you I was gone for 30 seconds each time. The third time I walked away bc he went flacid and demanded I start over. I told him no I’m not and I wanted a better partner. He then follows he to the bathroom to stare me down. He has a bad habit of cornering me when we get into disagreements when he doesn’t feel like giving me silent treatment . Like full on blocking my exit route so I can’t get away. He didn’t say anything , he didn’t need anything from the bathroom just stood there in the doorway while I used the toilet. I know that pissed him off. Anyway next day I do a tarot reading and it’s revealed that he is using me. I asked if he still loves me and got an answer of yes and no. Anyway as hurtful as it is

Im also numb bc on a bad day occasionally dracula will bring up a false accusation against me. and no matter how many time I sit down to go over the events with him he still to this day thinks I’m lying about it. His excuse is he doesn’t know who to believe even though the dude that told him the lie at that time ended up jumping him bc he wouldn’t defend his bad behavior of cheating. They haven’t been friends since then but for whatever reason that lie has a strong grip on Dracula. Since the lie was told he’s seen porn videos where he claims it’s me on the video. One has the same bedding as I did back then. I suspect it was either a bad coincident or that it could have been staged bc I have pictures on my Facebook with my rooms layout at the time. but all you saw in the video was purple zebra bedding nothing else to show if it was my room or not. That’s important bc at that time I had anime posters covering my walls that the bed sat against and other purple accessories like carpet. The girl looks similar to me but I see the differences in her hair and face. There was two more videos where Dracula insists it’s me but the third one you cant see anything but the chicks ass and the dudes balls. that one had me seeing red bc you can’t tell anything about where they are or who they are. I say all this because 1. I was a virgin when I met Dracula and 2. I’m so honest I will tell on myself. I believe you can’t have a good relationship without honestly and trust .If I had sex with other people I would have said so and I would have been honest if I had filmed anything. The most I did was send three nude photos in high school to a random guy. Never dated the guy. I was desperate for attention and it’s a mistake I wish I could forget. Sorry of the long side story. Anyway . Would I be the asshole if I bought him a sex toy and told him to f off until I can secure a place ? Sorry this was all over the place