So, it's somewhat of a long one.

My wife, our 18-month-old, and I live in a 4-bedroom house. One of the rooms wasn’t being used, so we decided to help out a work friend who needed a place to stay. We offered her the room for cheap, about 75% of what she was paying at her previous place. Rent was split three ways between me, my wife, and her. We paid for power, water, and the internet. All she had to cover was her portion of the rent and her groceries.

She stayed with us for two weeks before a natural disaster forced us to evacuate. We all stayed at a friend’s place outside the evacuation zone. After four days, we were able to return home. She, however, decided to stay with friends for “a few days,” which we were fine with - she’s an adult and can do what she wants.

Fast forward a month. We hadn’t heard from her at all. My wife and I both sent texts (about a week apart) and got completely ghosted. It hurt, but we figured whatever.

Then we got an email about an upcoming rental inspection. I messaged her again to ask if she’d be back for it - again, no response.

So, I decided to check her room to make sure it was inspection ready.

It was absolutely disgusting. The smell hit me instantly. There were clothes everywhere, and rotting, half-eaten food left out. Mold. The carpet was literally moulded. There were signs of rats. And worst of all, she had left razors on the floor. My wife stepped on one while we were cleaning up her mess.

That was the last straw. I packed up her stuff into boxes and sent her this message:

"3 hours, 3 Fucking hours. Words cannot even begin to describe how mad I am right now. Firstly you pretty much ghost us fine whatever but then, but fucking then you have the audacity to leave your room in the state it was left in. Firstly shame on you, you actual grot. Secondly, molding food on the carpet, which then lo and behold molded the carpet (who would have thought???), and thirdly rats (do you want me to go into detail?)

As you obviously don't want anything to do with us (God knows why?) I'll do you a favour. I'll be out all day Saturday in which you will have the time to come and grab your shit. (All packed away for you btw). You will need to leave your key and the phone that has been lent to you on the table. I also expect you to be paying for a professional service to come and clean the mold and rat shit out of the carpet. After this point, I want absolutely nothing to do with you"

Now the “friends” she’s staying with are pissed at us for how we handled it, and they’re saying I overreacted and acted like an asshole.

I feel like I’m going crazy here.

AITA?

Update:

So still no response from the roommate, however apparently she had a huuuuge meltdown ("Friend" sent my wife a text saying so) she also begged one of our other friends at 11pm to grab her stuff from our house. My wife is fine she hasn't managed to get anything except a decent cut from the razors. I'm definitely feeling much better about the situation after all the support from you guys.

TL;DR: Took in a friend as a roommate. She ghosted us for a month and left her room in a filthy, mouldy, rat-infested state. My wife stepped on a razor she left on the floor. I evicted her and told her off. Now people are calling me the asshole.