My friend (35F - let’s call her Anna-) had met her then boyfriend (39M - let’s call him JJ) around two years ago. She liked his personality but he has a stable 9-5 job as a banker and she is a multimillionaire business owner with offices around the world. Anna had studied globally and travels the world while JJ is a very proud banker with an IVY league education who hasn’t left the country and doesn’t have the finances, exposure or lifestyle that she did. While JJ showed few signs of insecurity because of their wealth gap, Anna did not care as she was proud of JJ. Anna also knew JJ’s family were proud of JJ for finding someone like her (education and wealth and everything). While dating and being with Anna, JJ was incredibly nice talking about how grateful and lucky he his to have someone like her while showing bigger signs of insecurity as JJ and his family are traditional, conservative and male chauvinistic - traits that they showed through the process that Anna was blinded by love to see.

All the friends noticed this, and felt she deserved better but did not want to say anything as it seemed that she was deeply in love with him. A year into dating Anna and JJ decided to tie the knot. An hour before the wedding Anna asked her friend June and me if she was making the right choice and was doubting it as they had a fight before the wedding. While we felt like she was not, we told her every love is unique, he seems like a nice person and she should go ahead if she believes in him and loves him.

Fast forward to today - a year later, Anna is in the middle of a messy divorce and JJ’s family are suing for her money. Six months after their wedding, JJ started expecting Anna to have the house care taker and stop working as he felt his job takes time and he needed to be spoiled. He and his family were always complaining about Anna’s weight ( she is a size 14 US - slightly chubby but in no way overweight) and blaming her for not getting pregnant because of it. He also started comparing her to all his friends’ wives who were mostly stay at home mothers and expecting her to live in a similar way.

AITA for not speaking up before her wedding when she had her doubts and stopping things or should I have done what I did. I feel guilty about it but also felt then that it was wrong about stopping her beautiful lavish Hawaii wedding.