This is my first Reddit post EVER and I’m sleep deprived, so bear with me! I (33F) am married (35M) and have 3 kids, pregnant with a 4th. I was on birth control and am still breastfeeding my 3rd, so this pregnancy was a shock. For the first time in his adult life, my husband was laid off from work a few months ago. Things have been stressful. He got another job, but he’s working nights now. I’m a stay at home mom because daycare is expensive.

When my husband gets home at 7am, he goes straight to sleep. He sleeps until about 1-2pm (sometimes later). On his 3 off days a week, he sleeps at night, then will sleep in or take a long nap during the day. Today was an off day, so he slept last night, woke up late, then took a nap in the afternoon.

Here’s where there’s an issue: I’m still breastfeeding our 18 month old and I SUCK at getting him to sleep through the night. I have been the only one to get him to bed or down for a nap, ever. He’s waking up every hour because he’s teething and I’m averaging 2-3 hours of sleep a night, typically with no naps as I’m taking care of our 5 year old or cleaning or cooking or something during the youngest’s nap. I can usually survive like this for a while but being pregnant now I feel like I’m going to die. Right after my husband woke up from his 2 hour nap today, I begged him to watch our 5 year old and 18 month old so I could sleep. He took them to the living room and I went to bed.

I hadn’t even fallen asleep yet when I hear my husband snoring from the couch. I walk out there and find the youngest with a AAA battery he took from the tv remote fully in his mouth. I freaked out, fished it out of his mouth, then starting looking for the other battery (2 were missing from the remote). My husband wakes up and gets PISSED. He’s yelling at me that he “wasn’t asleep”, I’m making him feel like a “shitty dad”, I should “take his rights away” and he’ll “never watch the kids again”. He was losing his mind. I “interrupted him” too much so he says he was mad that I wouldn’t let him speak but honestly I didn’t care what he had to say, at that point I didn’t know if our son had swallowed the other battery. I told my husband to leave the apartment and come back later, thinking he’d calm down. He came back still pissed.

Here’s the thing: I don’t think he meant to fall asleep. I know he’s exhausted from his new job. And I don’t think he meant to go off on me, I think he was startled from waking up like that and was just overtired and said shit he didn’t mean. BUT HE SLEEPS SO MUCH MORE THAN I DO, I’m pregnant and I don’t fall asleep while watching our kids! I still play with them, cook, clean, take them out…all on 2 hours a night. Why can’t he keep the youngest from eating a battery so I can nap after he’s had a full nights sleep and a nap himself?! Why did he lose his mind when I was crying and digging a battery out of our toddler’s mouth?! WHY WON’T HE LET ME SLEEP.

So AITA for expecting him to stay awake and watch these freaking kids, even though he works nights?!