I was in a relationship with a woman who often canceled plans at the last minute. She would say I didn’t love her, that I’d eventually get tired of her, and told me to find someone else. She complained that I didn’t visit, but when I said I would, she'd say her room was messy. Whenever I expressed any concern, she’d reply with, “If you don’t like it, I’ll leave.”

She also tried to make me jealous, mentioning people asking if she was single. One day, she blocked me on WhatsApp but sent an SMS saying she missed me. Later, her mom called asking if I loved her daughter, and after that, my ex invited me to her mom’s birthday party.

Finally, she texted me saying she loved me, missed me more than she thought she would, and asked if I wanted to visit her. When I said no, she accused me of abandoning her, said the choice was “mine,” and told me not to text her so she wouldn’t have false hope. She said I took away her happiness and wanted it back.

I’m feeling very confused and emotionally drained. The relationship was full of mixed signals, jealousy, distancing, and constant emotional ups and downs. She suggested I meet other women, didn’t want to share social media, avoided making real plans, got upset about anything I said, and disappeared whenever I opened up about my feelings.

Even when I tried to see her, she'd always have excuses. She encouraged me to download dating apps, and after we broke up, I found her on those same apps.

There was even a situation where she told me she wouldn’t go to a party, so I planned to go to church. Then she suddenly decided to go to the party, insisted I should go to church, and when I suggested visiting her before the party, she said no. I still went there and waited on the street with chocolates. Her sister saw me and invited me in. She introduced me as her boyfriend to her friends, and during the same party, she randomly said: “Let’s download a dating app and find a hot girl for you?”

All of this left me feeling lost and broken, and I’m really struggling mentally. I didn’t want to end things, but I couldn’t handle it anymore. Now I feel like I’m at my limit and don’t know what to do.