Am I the bad guy?

This past year has been the bane of my existence I swear. Let me give you a timeline, and then details.

1. Almost fatal car crash that totaled my car
2. Recovering from 5th concussion
3. Got Married
4. More health complications from car crash
5. Everything clears up, no more chaos or worries
6. Grandmother almost dies
7. Other grandmother goes to hospital and dies
8. Funeral
9. 1 year anniversary

This all happened within a year and a half. My wife left me out of the blue a day before our 1 year anniversary. I was out of town working a couple weeks prior, had an argument on the phone and she blocked me while I was out of town working. I cram 5 days worth of work into 2.5 days and come home early. She has begun to hide her phone, acting cross, and absolutely nothing but pointing the finger at me and saying I am always, and have always been the one in the wrong. She started going on these "drives" to clear her head. She racked up almost 300 miles in one week from these drives. I became suspicious and turned the audio on the dashcam and let her continue those "drives". What i heard over the audio made me throw up all night long when I got home. She was talking to my best man from my wedding, and his girlfriend about how she is sick of everything. How she sees the ring I got her as a monetary item, how she plans to be finished by the end of April, and how she plans on being gone the next time I am out of town for work. They berated and belittled me, made fun of me and my traumas and issues, and conspired against me. I have known my best man for 12 years and my ex-wife for 10. I experienced a level of betrayal and pain, sadness, hopelessness, lack of any value or worth to myself that I wish no one else to experience. It was evil, it was vile and putrid. I went home after hearing all of this, and getting advice from friends and family. I confronted her with everything she had done, what she said, what she planned. I told her that through all of that, I forgive you because I am your husband and this is a marriage, a life long commitment. I told her to not talk to my best man anymore, nor his girlfriend. Reasonable request right? Not for them. She then told them that I told her not to talk to anyone, and that she felt hostage and unsafe. I was woken up from a nap, windows open throughout the house, my house surrounded by her friends and brother, and she let them in to start packing up her stuff to leave. I had to leave my OWN HOME so I did not act out foolishly on these insane levels of pain that I had described. This happened on the day before our 1 year anniversary. She blocked her maid of honor, all of my family, sought no advice from anyone else besides those two that she conspired against me with. She doxed me, where I live, what I look like, my vehicle descriptions, my phone number. I dont get it.

Through all of this, I am the bad guy. Everything I know is gone, lost, irreconcilable at this point. I received the summons not even 2 weeks after all of this had happened. I have never once, not one word ever in my life, talked poorly about my ex wife. Never put her in danger, never acted out on anger as she has done to me for some reason. I worked my but off, sacrificing my health to provide food, a good life, and a future. I thought things were great. I thought we were just getting started, but holy cow guys. This is unreal.

I am going to the gym now. My apartment is spotless. I am keeping myself busy. More clear minded since this began. Why did she marry me. Does this seem like a methodical back stabbing plan to hurt me to the core? I keep having dreams about her but I know those will go away. I am 26, lots of life ahead of me, and I really dont know if re marriage is possible after this. This was pure evil. Chopped me down further in my darkest moments in life, from near death events, to family passing away, to this.... I hope that it gets better. I have no friends, family lives a bit aways, a town that provides no opportunities to meet new people. I am lost.