I wrote about my ex Lisa contacting me 7 months ago. She just wanted to be friends, but I ended up ghosting her because he was married. She was able to escape her abusive marriage and I had been helping her over the last 7 months to get her life back on track. A lot of you have been messaging me for the last few months regarding the update. I think we have some resolution now and, in my opinion, a semi-happy one.

https://www.reddit.com/r/AITAH/comments/1f3jqmv/aitah_for_ghosting_my_ex_because_she_is_married/

https://www.reddit.com/r/AITAH/comments/1g0nuk2/update_aitah_for_ghosting_my_ex_because_she_is/

After Lisa left Jason around 6 months ago, she came to my town. It looked horrible as I was her ex boyfriend and her parents and our friends flipped on us. It did not help that Jason (her husband) went around telling everyone that we were having an affair, and she left him for me. In reality, Jason was abusive to her and her parents and most of our friends refused to help her. She reached out to me because I lived halfway across the country, and she just wanted to get some distance from the situation before filing for divorce.

I took everyone's advice, and we got her an apartment near me immediately after I wrote the previous update. Her mom refused to acknowledge the situation and called her a lot of names, but her dad secretly helped her financially for a while and she was able to get on her feet. Jason kept on harassing her and leaving nasty messages, and suddenly trying to love bomb her and sending her flowers etc. Lisa filed for divorce around 4 months ago. Initially, Jason tried to fight it and make her life hell. However, Lisa gave all the evidence she had against Jason (text messages, proof of him cheating, etc) to her lawyers and they negotiated with Jason's lawyers for an uncontested divorce. I think all the paperwork is in now, and we are just waiting for the courts to finalize the divorce now.

This is where it got really complex. Lisa's lawyers filed for alimony and Lisa will be getting a significant payout a long as she signs an NDA and not share the text messages and pictures that her lawyer used as leverage. It's significant enough that Lisa will not have to ever worry about money again. Lisa agreed to the NDA as a clause for getting a quick uncontested divorce.

As soon as the news of the divorce came out, news spread that Lisa, and I were having an affair and planned the whole marriage charade to get money from Jason's family. I know many of Lisa's friends who are from her hometown sided with Jason and sent Lisa some really nasty messages. Lisa's family also has been harassed by everyone in their town, and they lost a lot of friends due to this. Lisa's mom went nuclear on Lisa and me and accused us of conning Jason. Her dad has also cut all contact with her after the divorce details were finalized. We cannot share any of the messages to prove her side as she has already signed the NDA.

Regarding Lisa and me, when I saw Lisa in trouble, I jumped immediately into saving her without an afterthought. I feel the part or me that loved her never went away. I did not tell her that, nor did I bring up dating. However, Lisa came and kissed me when I was cooking, and we just could not control our feelings. Even though we have been romantically involved for the past 4-5 months, we have decided to take it slow and wait until Lisa heals before thinking of any next steps. I feel Lisa is in a lot of traumas and we are just bonding over that.

We do not know what to do here. On one hand, we want Jason to pay for what he put Lisa through. However, Lisa is now like a social pariah and suffering depression. She is in therapy, and I just feel so bad for her. I would love to get some perspectives on what I can do to make Lisa feel better. I feel she is just caught up in a rock and hard place.