Hey everyone thank you for the overwhelming support and comments on my original post. I didn’t expect it to blow up but reading the responses honestly gave me a lot of clarity and strength.

So 2 days after I postedmy original post I sat down with my fiance again to clear the air. I told him calmly that I wasn’t changing my mind about Kyle. That it wasn’t just about one joke it was about the fact that Kyle has never shown me respect. And then my fiance understood we had a bigger issue.

He got quiet and listened to me and for the first time I think it really hit him how serious everything was.

A day later kyle texted me something along the lines “sorry if you were sensitive about the joke the other night wasn’t trying to ruin your birthday lol” I showed that to my fiance and he just sighed and said That’s just how he talks.

So I said maybe then kyle can talk like that from his home because he’s not coming to our wedding.

And now here’s the best part My fiance agreed. He wasn't too happy about it but he said if it really makes me uncomfortable then kyle won’t be there. He told that to kyle and he threw a whole fit about it. Ofcourse as usual called me controlling.

And then kyle’s girlfriend texted me yesterday “I’m honestly glad he’s not going because he’s been a nightmare about your wedding ever since you got engaged"

So yeah this exact thing made me realise what i did was absolutely the right thing to do and i dogged a bullet.

Now about the wedding it's still on. Just with one less toxic guest on the list.

Thank you all for giving me the push I needed to stand my ground.