Original post, Update 1

A quick tldr: My (at the time) fiancée found out I was previously engaged to a man. She had a very negative reaction despite already knowing I was bisexual. I ultimately decided to end the engagement. I felt unsupported, distrustful of her, and I didn't want to be in a relationship with someone who discredited and disregarded my sexuality.

It's been seven months. It feels like a lifetime ago! I was still in such a fog back then.

I'm not sure if this update is even "allowed" since the issue has technically already been resolved. The question was AITAH for not telling her about my late partner's gender and now that relationship is over. The conflict doesn't exist anymore. She and I haven't spoken and I don't ever want to again. That entire relationship was a huge mistake from start to finish.

I just wanted to drop in and say I'm seeing someone.

We've been officially dating for about a month. He knew me from before my partner passed and I feel like I'm slowly making progress in finding that person again. I spent a long time trying to emulate my late partner as a way of honoring him. I respect and love him so much, present tense, and I wanted to encapsulate the way he was. My boyfriend likes to remind me that he wouldn't want me to be him. He would want me to be me. That's been so helpful, along with lots of therapy.

And re: the national emergency mentioned at the end of this post... order has been restored, the troops can stand down, etc.

EDIT: I received a ton of understanding and compassionate comments that helped me a lot after my story was posted on the BestofRedditorUpdates subreddit. It made me feel comfortable and hope that posting here again would be welcomed and give people a conclusion to the journey. It also made me feel less crazy since I was receiving a litany of ignorant comments relating to my sexuality. Unfortunately, this sub’s primary response remains the same. I can’t do biphobia round 3 again. It was rough enough the first two times. I’m not a glutton for punishment.