📝 UPDATE - AITAH If I brought this up to my gf on her birthday weekend?

By Srrly01 • Score: 2 • April 10, 2025 5:09 AM


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Hello everyone, thank you for your comments, concerns, and memes. Going to keep the story short, in the end we decided it was best to split up an I take the dog.....KIDDING. We talked things out as a mature couple should and she recognized that it was her fault for not being able to let me know what she is doing. I told her honestly that I think I might have just been overthinking it and I am a lunatic. She reassured me that it was her fault to blame since she was out way later than originally thought. I told her that I don't mind her partying and going out but it just would be nice to see an update from her to see if she's okay and can get home safe especially since it was a group of complete randoms. We both admitted somethings we did was wrong (me judging what the heck was happening all night and her not responding back to me). I then asked how the night was and to my surprise she remembered it even though she was blacked out drunk. I also brought up the point of what she was doing at The Cosmo and to my surprise she just ended up walking like 5 block to get there just her, she said she was sight seeing. Which was really funny to me because she has done this before but only around me so I was like DAMN 5 blocks. But anyway the problem got resolved, I spoke my feelings, how the situation made me feel, and what if the shoe was reversed. She admitted that if it was reversed she would have definitely worried about me too and would have called 20+ times and/or stayed on the phone with me, which I thought was cute.

Things to address:

  1. To the people who thought she was cheating and I should dumper her immediately, I understand where you come from and for a moment I thought too but it came across my mind that she would never do that over a million years. Guys have come up in the past to flirt and she ended it quick.
  2. To the people who said: You're immature, she can do whatever she wants, you're borderline abusive, and etc. Reminder this is just a post of a small story. Yes I may seemed controlling or whatever but you guys don't know our dynamic and how it works. Just because we like to update each other on our location doesn't mean it works for you.
  3. To that guy she got a drink from, turns out he was in for a convention and she told him no funny business from the jump. He accepted that and watched over her as other guys just didn't listen to her, so bless him. He also helped my gf into the uber and didn't go with her. So who ever that guy was he was a hero in my book.
  4. To the people who say I don't trust her: I do 100% trust she will not cheat on me but it was the matter of fact that I was worried about her and the situation she was in. Young lady almost blacked out drunk, no friends, no boyfriend, no family to help her, wondering Las Vegas on the streets at 3-4AM and did not text you back in the slightest. Wouldn't that concern you as a boyfriend or gf? I understand she is able to defend herself but what if there was a group of people threatening her or someone grabs her?

In the end everything is good now, she definitely regrets drinking as much as she should and is now currently way too hungover to leave the house. She admitted that she was wrong and if it was reversed she also would have felt jealous and concerned, especially since she overthink things a lot (not from me but her words). I expressed my feelings and brought up every point in that situation of her talking to that guy to her wondering around at 4AM, I did feel bad about bringing it up because it's not like me to feel like this or confront people. As both of us talked we saw each others side of the story and no one was mad at each other for the points brought up, it was well a mature conversation. Thank you everyone for your feedback, even the crazy ones, as some of you guys opened up my eyes to some sort. I will be flying to her soon so when we meetup and if things start being weird around her or anything then I will update you guys.

If you guys have any questions just drop a comment and I can try to clarify it for you. Oh also, she started to update me every 30 minutes now (sarcastically), saying stuff like eating now, taking a bite now, walking to the bathroom now, and etc. Which I found funny af and she laughed too.

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