Spoke to Fiancé about my previous post and he actually agreed with me and the overwhelming support I got from everyone on here, and he said that he won’t ask her to ever babysit, and contact will be through holidays and family events and he won’t tolerate any slander including her telling me to calm down. He also informed me that after the pink eye incident and the clothing one that he spoke to her and told her that his nephew is not allowed to touch her face and that just because something is placed in the diaper bag doesn’t mean it’s warm enough for her to wear it outside and I spoke to her about the pool balls and ripped her a new one when it happened

So thank you everyone for your comments!