I’m 19f and bf is 27m and the cat is around 18 and is my registered emotional support animal. So a few months ago I posted about my cat screaming at night time. Some people said it’s feline dementia and that turns out to be true. I did end up taking her to the vet after the post and she’s physically completely fine besides some kidney issues as expected for cats her age. Then he calmed down and let her be with us again for a while. Then about a week ago she started up screaming again and my bf decided to lock her out of the room again. Since I knew it was dementia and she’s just screaming out of confusion I let him have his way for about a week while I tried to find some meds to give her to calm her down. I debated between cbd and gabapentin and went with gabapentin from the vet. The first night I gave it to her she had 1 mL and was very sleepy and calm. I crawled into bed and was trying to sleep when he announced that she still could not be in the bed with us because he read that gabapentin had a small chance of making the cat pee the bed. Emphasis on SMALL chance. And we have a mattress protector so it would have been fine either way. We had a fight because I said let him have his way for a whole week and now I found a compromise to make her stay quiet at night and this is his response? I was sobbing while holding my cat and she was licking up my tears which just made me realize even more what an amazing animal she is. I tried to compromise by having her sleep in her bed nook near the bed that also had waterproof covering. He said no because she “might jump on the bed and pee in the night.” She couldn’t even stand up from the meds! Let alone jump feet in the air. So I once again let him lock her out to show him she would not pee outside the litter box while on the medication. The next night was last night and i did not sedate her and I was peacefully asleep with my cat in my arms and he came in the bedroom, grabbed my cat, and tried to take her away. I started screaming at him and crying to let her go and he was fighting me. His reason was once again the cat “might pee on his bed”. She has never once peed the bed. EVER. And now she’s not sedated and has no reason to. AND we have the waterproof covering! He kept repeating it was his $1500 mattress and he’s not letting an elderly incontinent cat ruin it even though she is not incontinent. She occasionally pees or poops on heaps of laundry on the floor but that’s not incontinence. If there’s no laundry on the floor she never pees outside the litter. Not even next to the litter. The whole time he was grabbing my cat he was telling me “stop” as if I was the one aggressing and not the one who was ASLEEP previously. Then I decided if he didn’t want the cat in bed it was fine. So I got up with my cat, made an air mattress in the living room and went to sleep with my cat there. He was telling me I was being unreasonable for following his rules. When she’s locked out all I can think of is waking up and finding her dead, cold and alone. If I woke up and she was dead in my arms I’d be ok because I’d know she died knowing she was loved up until her last minute. I want to leave him but I don’t want to stress the cat with another move and we’re bound by the lease and my parents are extremely abusive and are my only other option to live with. Do I just sleep on the floor with my cat indefinitely or are my parents better? What can I say to him that might make him understand he’s being unreasonably cruel to my elderly cat?