Me and my GF have just moved to a new city three months ago and she wanted to throw a birthday party having dinner with some friends. Unfortunately I was out of town that weekend (not her birthday) but we had a trip booked together the week after.

She invited her closest colleagues and two of our roommates and then some people she has gotten to know from our roommates. When I was away she called me and was very upset that 2 out of 8 in total had cancelled the same day.

I told her I understand that sucks but we have only lived here for three months and that it’s probably not personal, they probably have more plans and social life, might be expensive to go out and eat with someone you don’t know really well and that her true friends will show up. She just cried and said it feels like no one wants to come to the dinner and I tried to cheer her up and say she was overthinking it and just focus on having a good time with the people who were already on their way there.

She called me unsupportive and disrespectful to her feelings but I don’t really see where I went wrong. I have moved cities multiple times and understand the struggle of loneliness in the beginning so I can see why her feelings are a bit all over the place but feel a bit disappointed that she had no appreciation what so ever for my attempts to support her and her turning against me…

Am I the asshole and if so why? What did I miss?