So a lot more has happened over the last few days. First I went back home the other day to grab some important things I needed. I waited to go back over there until I knew my mom would be at work and tried to make it quick cause I didn’t particularly want to see my dad either.

While I was in there I did tell him what Mom had said about me. He did seem shocked she would say that to me or my siblings. But when I asked if this is the first time she’s ever said that, he admitted that she’s told him that more than a few times. When asked if he knew why, he just told me she has her reasons but they’re not my fault. I tried to get him to explain more but that’s really as far as he would go. I don’t really know how I should feel about that but I just went with it. I asked if that’s how he felt about me too. He said it’s not and that he loves me. It hasn’t really felt like that’s true and I wanted to say that to him, but I just ended up saying okay. I told him I’m cutting Mom completely off and him too for now. After that I took my stuff and left.

Fast forward to a couple days ago. I got a very angry series of messages from my sister about how horrible I am for turning our brother against our mom. She said I made mom cry and that I should be ashamed of myself. Needless to say I had no idea what she was talking about. As far as I knew my brother wasn’t against anyone in this situation so I was just confused. I tried to ask her to explain but I should know by now that I never get an answer from that. So instead I called my brother to ask him directly.

Apparently mom found out that I knew about what she said(I’m assuming dad told her). Then she called my brother and screamed at him for “going behind her back” and telling me. To which he responded that she was the only one saying things behind peoples backs and that she was being unreasonably mean to me for no real reason. He told her she should get her priorities straight and go yell at dad for causing this whole thing. Then he told her not to call him again if all she was going to do was yell about someone or something.

I honestly wasn’t expecting that from my brother. He’s not the type to step into conflict if he doesn’t have too. But obviously her yelling at him set him off. Im not trying to say I’m happy she did that, but I am happy my brother responded the way he did. Obviously she cares more about what he thinks than she does me.

I told my brother about what dad says and he agrees his response feels weird. I asked if he possibly knows why since he’s a bit older than me but he’s just as shocked about this all as I am. He also said he would talk to my sister about everything and get her to back off.

So now I’m waiting to see how things go with that. Like I said before I’m not the type to cut people off but if my mom is just going to use my sister to talk to me I’m going to block her too. Also as far as housing goes, I decided to take my friend up on his offer and stay until my other friends lease is up. That’s the update for now.

Tl;dr: Tried to ask my dad if he knew why my mom was saying this stuff. He just kind of danced around the answer. My mom got mad at my brother for telling me what she said, and he surprisingly stood up to her.