📝 Wibta for breaking up with my fiancé because he lost his job?

By throwaway82293808 • Score: 1 • April 18, 2025 10:57 PM


I don’t wanna give away too many details on here. We are in our mid 20s. Been together almost three years. I work 50 hours a week. So does he. We split the rent together.

When we first met and until 9 months ago, he worked part time almost full time. Then as time went on, he was working not even 1 day a week with his old job because the company was going through it.

Anyways, when he was home from work those few months, I found out he spent his time watching porn and that disclosed his porn addiction. That’s a long story in itself and runs deep. He’s been in therapy for a few months now and swears he’s stopped and gotten better.

This new job he had made good money. He was good at it and got hired in a leadership role. Enjoyed it. But hated the way the company was run. Hated which methods they used. How they did things. And often expressed his anger and frustration to other people at his job. He would say “I’m so over this fucking company” get attitudes with his bosses for doing things an inefficient way. Which are all valid. But you cannot do that so outwardly in front of your co workers. Hes a very hard worker. To a fault in this case. Where he wanted perfectionism with a company that didn’t really care about anything but making money.

Well, months pass, and he gets fired. Upper management told him “we heard that you don’t care about your job anymore so we have to let you go”

He called me up pissed. On the verge of tears. And at first I felt sorry and had compassion. Then my fears went on to him being home alone again all day. And how is porn issues worsened when he was out of work.

I told him so many times “your co workers aren’t your friends. You can’t say stuff like that” or I’d tell him maybe to cool it down and not get so bent out of shape over a company that doesn’t put in that amount of effort.

Between what happened not even 6 months ago (finding the extent of the porn use) and this. It’s making me want to leave because I don’t think I can trust anymore or go through the fears of his addiction getting bad again. And because he lost a good job because he talked too much shit in front of everybody.

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