I need mass opinions of all varieties. I am seriously conflicted right now. For context my ex-husband and I are both mid twenties. We have two children (M&F both younger than 10 with F being older) I am being extremely vague because technology likes to keep things awhile and I don't need my children reading anything they can be certain is about them. We got married after a teen pregnancy. We never had a relationship built on love and there was often violence in the home to the point that after my son was born I sent them to live with his family when they offered to ensure their safety. Our divorce was granted due to incompatibility and I got my children back from his family. He had held an ongoing affair. I had my feelings about it in the past due to the issues surrounding their beginning and our end of course but the woman is a wonderful step mother to the children but he is doing the same crap to her and my children's brother that he did to me and my kids, she is trying her best but her focus is on her and her son right now and I simply can't blame that. since our divorce years ago she has managed to get him to attend a grand total of 15 visitations... 77 have been missed including holidays. They are technically homeless right now. Her family helps take care of her and her son. He does nothing for them. My entire goal for stripping his rights isn't to take the kids away from him. I am extremely close with his family and I have grown to care for their step mother and their brother holds their blood. They will always be allowed to have a bond with them and see them regularly. he has never paid a dime in child support and if it goes past 10k in my state then he can be held in contempt of court. He can't develop into any type of parent behind bars and he will find some way to blame me. I am held by limits according to our custody agreement and I will not dis-obey them. While he has moved out of state for months at a time I am stuck in the same place surrounded by terrible school districts and limited jobs, I can't take the children on vacation without calling his family because he won't answer the phone. His family has been telling me for over a year now to strip his rights but I am worried he will take it as an opportunity to drop all contact which he would be legally allowed to do at that point in time. He has supervised visits due to the unmedicated mental health issues (he has bipolar schizophrenia that he refuses to treat), displayed anger (attempted DV in front of the children and use of corporal punishment that resulted in bruises on my son), lack of transportation and lack of housing. I know that having it granted wouldn't be the issue but I am worried it will have a different outcome than expected. I am not planning to do anything quite yet but I am preparing just in case because he showed up to my son's last birthday with "not a doctor's shot" marks covering the crease in his arm. I don't want my children to resent my actions but I don't want them to resent the lack of my actions either. All advice is welcome.