Hello!

So I (22F) met my new boyfriend (24M) in the beginning of February, we’ll call him Dylan. We’ve been officially together for almost 2 weeks now!

For the most part, it has been great. But, there’s one thing which is bothering me and I’m unsure if I am being unreasonable in this situation.

In a partner, I really value thoughtfulness (as in if he were to write me a little note or pluck me a daisy, it’d make my day). Dylan doesn’t seem to be much of a romantic type - which is completely okay! Everyone’s love language is different. But this man has never once bought me flowers.

For a while, I didn’t say anything about it because I didn’t want to be demanding. I thought ‘there hasn’t really been an occasion for it yet’, which is sucky because I don’t think there necessarily has to be an occasion for flowers. Every girls loves ‘just because’ flowers. But after 3 months and no sign of him even considering it, I sent him a jokey reel saying ‘if you buy your gf flowers it makes your muscles bigger’ or something. Because I appreciate that men aren’t telepathic, and he may not realise that it’s something important to me. His response to this was ‘oh I was actually going to get you some the other day, but I ran out of time!’ and then the subject was dropped.

So for me, I don’t care for expensive bouquets or anything. It’s the thought and effort which means a lot to me. As apart of my self care routine, I like to occasionally treat myself to flowers which are usually £3 or less. I had a toxic relationship before this one, where flowers would only be brought for me as apologies etc. after that breakup, I decided to look after myself more and decided I don’t want to wait around for a man to buy me flowers. so I usually just end up treating myself to them. I think they’re lovely and brighten up a room, and are a really nice gesture which makes me feel loved and seen. And Dylan knows this.

To be completely blunt, I want to be seeing a man who can take the initiative to get me flowers without me having to beg for it. You know? So would it be crazy of me to tell him that this would be a deal breaker for me.

I don’t think that I’m a very high maintenance person or asking for too much.. even him gifting a leaf he found on the floor at this point would make me happy. But do you think I’m being unreadable with this? Or am I creating an issue out of nothing?