Throwaway account. My (24F) best friend (25F) is getting married in a few months and just yesterday informed me that my previous abuser (25M) was invited to the reception, but not the ceremony. He's friends with her soon-to-be husband (25M). She told me they planned to veto him entirely from attending due to the situation that unfurled between us, but the husband decided to extend the invite to not completely bury their friendship.

This is extremely difficult for me to process and I'd have to relive all of the abusive events that had happened to me (SA). I will never feel safe in the same space as him even if he had a "change of heart" and is actively trying to become "better". The bride and groom already had plans to seat us as far away as possible and told the abuser to not speak or approach me at all. They never consulted me if I was okay with this. My current partner is absolutely floored by this and furious that the bride and groom expect me to tough it out.

WIBTA if I tell my best friend that I cannot be expected to attend if my abuser is there?