So my (37F) child (12M) is friends with 2 children (12M and 10F) who live a few houses down from us. Recently I have been picking up the older child with my child from school and bringing him home as they live so close and it doesn’t make sense for him to walk over 30 minutes home when I’m already there for my child.

The other day, the boys were talking in the car and the other child said, “I can’t wait until I am 18 so I don’t have a share a bed with my mom anymore.”

I asked gently what he means by that and he said “oh yeah I sleep with my mom in her bed and my sister sleeps with Dad in his bed.”

I tried to school my expression to neutrality but to me that seems wrong. I know from hearing from my younger children (10 M and 9F) that the sister has been getting in trouble for bullying lately and now I’m worried maybe that something else is going on.

I’ve tried to always raise my kids with a “what other families do is their business, not ours” but this seems weird even to me. They are a 1st generation Mexican family and maybe this is a normal practice? I just want feedback if I’d be the asshole if I report the sleeping arrangements to the school counselor (who’s a mandated reporter)?