My mom and I have been discussing the possibility of her coming to visit. Yesterday I spoke w her and mentioned if she came to stay it could only be for a short time and we agreed and started discussing the terms of her staying and visiting. She discussed staying for 3 months.

Well today she told me she bought her ticket to come visit. I’m now stressing and feel panicked.

While initially it seemed it may work, I just now am dreading it. I think it just truly sunk in and I’m spiraling. I’ve realized thinking over it tonight that this will be the third summer in a row she will be staying w me for several months. The last two didn’t really go well either… I felt stressed the whole time and when I started a new work from home job last year my mom criticized me the whole time from the living room, everything I said to my co-workers she commented on and criticized.

In a lot of ways she’s supportive but I think I’m realizing there’s some enmeshment and I think I need to spend time on my own and enjoy my independence for a change.

I think I need to tell her not to come anymore. I’ll pay her back for the $400 she spent on her plane ticket. Would I be the asshole if I told her not to come anymore?