For context, I occasionally tell people/friends about what happened to me once in highschool.

I had come into class with a plate of cookies I had made earlier that day in my cooking class. One of the two girls in the class for some reason accused me of not making the cookies after asking me where I got them from and who made them. And despite me telling her multiple times that I did, in fact, make them. She just laughed ne off and kept saying that I didn't. I was annoyed with her, so I just tried doing my work. Not even a minute later, this girl walks up to my desk, grabs my plate of cookies, and tries to walk away with them. I yell out: "Hey" and grah her by the arm to stop her. I ask her what the hell she's doing and to put the plate down. She then gets shocked and mad at me, and demands that I let go of her arm. I tell her no, and tell her again to give back my plate. Again, she demands I let go of her arm, and the second girl in the room also demands that I let go of her arm. I brushed her off and told the first girl again to give back the plate, she doesn't listen and demands yet again that I let go of her. I tell her to let go once more, she doesn't listen and demands yet again I let go of her, which I don't. She then just pulls herself put of my grip and walks away, to which I follow after her. By the time I got to where she was, she had already ripped off the plastic, took out a cookie for herself and the other girl, and started eating them. When I got to where they were to confront them about stealing my stuff, she and the other girl literally just told me: "Bro, stop." "Yeah, go away." So in response I took the plate and just dumped them in the trash because they ruined it.

When I tell this story, people are either like: "Yeah, that's a reasonable crashout." Others are like: "Dude, really? Why the hell did you grab her arm? That's literal assault. You shouldn't be grabbing women like that. Do that in the real public, and you'll get shot."

So if in the real public, if a woman were to just pick up my food/stuff, and casually walk away with it, and I have to grab her by the arm to stop her after she ignores me demanding her multiple times to give it back. Does that actually make me the asshole for "assaulting a woman" when she's literally trying to steal from me?