My husband (34M) and I (32F) are planning on having a child in the next year or so. My parents haven't annoyed us about grand children, thankfully, but they would be happy.

Over the last few years, we have lived overseas, so I've only seen my parents physically a couple of times a year. But now we're planning to move back home, to be closer to both our families, and start our own.

Right now, my parents are visiting me, and I've noticed that some aspects of their health have gotten significantly worse. But these are things that are completely manageable with modern medicine: 1. My dad's hearing has gotten significantly worse, but he doesn't notice or thinks it's not that bad, and 2. My mum's knees have gotten so bad she is basically in constant pain. She can't walk 5min comfortably without needing to sit, avoids stairs, and takes a lot of painkillers. My sibling and I have tried to talk to my parents about these issues and medical intervention, but they don't want to.

My husband's parents are a bit older than mine, and quite active. They both get their hearing checked regularly and one has a hearing aid. One of his parents also have a hip replacement. They both just seem to accept these things happen with age and do what needs to be done. They're travelling a lot and enjoying their retirement, and can also keep up with the other nibblings.

So, my parents would be excited for a grand child, but I'm hesitant about leaving my baby with them if I had to, because what if my dad doesn't hear the baby if they need help, or my mum is in too much physical pain to help attend to their needs quickly. So, WIBTAH if I tell them that unless my dad gets his hearing check and gets a hearing aid, and my mum maybe looks at a knee replacement, I don't feel comfortable playing a supporting role with the grandchild?