I'm in my early 20s and I do not have a steady job. My income is odds and ends from a paid survey website. I've been using this website for a few years now and have been able to get my mom small things for her birthday and Christmas with this income.

The gifts even if they're small, have thought put into them. They are things she uses often like clothes and cups. Last year I got her a vintage lunchbox she wanted as a kid but could never get because her family was poor. She cried of happiness when she opened the gift. It was HARD to find for a decent price. The only one I could find that wasn't out of my budget was rusted and dented but I fixed it up the best I could, literally spending hours cleaning off rust with a ball of aluminum foil and a toothbrush. The point is that I try my hardest even when I don't have that much money.

Both her birthday and Easter are this month. She mentioned in passing how she has never gotten an Easter basket so I wanted to get her one and surprise her.

Earlier we got into an "argument" that was just us joking around and I very obviously jokingly said "I'm not getting you a birthday gift." She has said similar things to me regarding holidays as well so I didn't think much of it.

She immediately got angry and said she didn't care because no one ever gets her anything anyway. I said I had gotten her things every birthday and Christmas the past several years and she said "You've been alive a long time." I guess implying that I should have gotten her more gifts more years. I was not employed. She knows this. We have lived together my whole life.

It's been bothering me. I keep replaying it in my head. Even on years I didn't have money I always hand made her birthday cards, taking days at a time perfecting the art on them and trying to make them funny to make her day better.

I don't know if I'm over reacting and being childish or if this is rightfully upsetting me. I don't even want to get her anything now. It just seems like it isn't appreciated.