EDIT: was being a big, insecure, anxious baby; will stick it out and talk to my mans

thanks for helping me snap tf out of it 🫰

r/relationshipadvice didn't like my post. I don't have any plans to break up. I might just be catastrophizing. But I think that I am overall making our lives worse. I'm indecisive and extremely anxious about regular things like cooking, cleaning, chores, etc. I am in therapy and have had some minor successes over the years. Anxiety has gotten better. But my executive dysfunction (diagnosed ADHD) is just off the rails, and it feels like it's only getting worse with age. I feel like because I am so unbelievably slow at chores, daily decision making, etc. that he ends up doing everything. All in all I just can't see how I'm bringing much to this relationship. We love each other so much, but I wonder if he is making himself miserable because of it.

I feel like... yes I'm stuck with me, but he doesn't have to be. If I were contributing majorly in some other way, I would not feel this way. But we work similar hours (he's paid more), and the only extra thing I do is care for the dog (buying supplies, vet trips, and the like). He does all cooking, and he does the lion's share of housework.

To field some questions and responses I can already see coming: -we are both in therapy (individual, not couples). -yes I'm aware he is making a conscious choice to be with me despite my faults. He is, however, a glutton for punishment. I fear he would just "take it" and never be truly happy again because he "doesn't deserve to be". -i am already diagnosed with ADHD, anxiety, and major depressive disorder. -i have talked to him about this somewhat, but I never feel any better. Our talks just distract me for a while. I am very easily distractible and somewhat naively optimistic by nature. -no human children; living together for 8 years.

Advice is welcome. Sorry if this was rambling. I'm not in a great headspace and feeling very guilty at the moment. K bye