I (17F) have had the same best friend (16F) since 7th/8th grade, we’ll call her lily, and we’re juniors in hs now. For some context in 8th grade Lily’s parents got a divorce and truthfully me and her made a lot of bad decisions while her parents were still living together (our freshman year- by sneaking out, sneaking ppl in, smoking, drinking, etc). This is where the drinking really started for her i think. At first her mom was very against her smoking/drinking and tried to stop that and us from making bad decisions (so did my mom). My mom got through to me and i stopped doing all of it (except occasionally gardening). On the other hand Lily kept doing all of those things and her drinking problem led to a lot of other issues and worsened her already not great mental health. Fast forwarding to our sophomore year, she left the school we went to together while her mom, sister, and her moved away from her dad. I think this made things worse on Lily but fast forward to our junior year I still go to her house all the time and we’re still really close although this is where all the problems arise, or rather, worsen. (also her mom started letting her drink/smoke slightly before she left our school). Anyway she started talking to a man who we’ll call John (35M), yes a 19 year, pedophilic, relationship. I only found out about this because John got my address, as Lily was sending pictures of herself while at my house, with the location linked to the photos and this led to her mom finding out and the police getting involved. She no longer has had a phone since then because the police are using it for evidence but i reach out to her through her mom. This is a point where I mess up, I let her borrow my ipad so that she could have music in the shower and so that she and I could talk. She ended up using it to get in contact with John again, as she was obviously cut off from him since all of this blew up. I found out about this one night after one of her families parties where she got very drunk, which is a whole story in itself (which i’ll explain further if necessary) and after the party (i did not want to be at) we went back to her house where she fell asleep but she kept yelling incoherent things in her sleep and flailing until she finally yelled “NO 🥷🏿, LEAVE ME ALONE”. She’s mixed, her dad is white and her mom is mexican and i’m mixed (african american & white). I’ve had a lot of problems with racism in my life and she’s well aware of this so as soon as she said this i started packing up to leave. I had to tell her mom i was leaving since they have an alarm system and before i left, her mom insisted i took my ipad back to my house and see if she was talking to John again. I might have done the wrong thing here but in the morning I told my mom everything that happened then she took the ipad and went through it herself, and called Lily’s mom. Lily’s mom didnt care to look through it herself even though it had a lot more than just what she was looking for and she really shouldve imo. Anyway after this Lily and I didn’t talk for almost 2 weeks which we never do, because i didnt reach out to her and realized she hadn’t reached out to me first since god knows when. She still didnt reach out after these 2 weeks so I folded and texted her explaining that we needed to talk. We did end up (kind of) talking about things about a week ago. It went really badly imo because we didnt really conclude anything or solve any issues but she does know what she said, that ik about her using my ipad for John, her drinking problem is getting worse, and that it bothered me that she doesnt ever reach out first (probably since she moved tbh). She’s said that shes gonna try to fix these things and that we can talk again to solve things whenever I’m ready but WIBTAH if i took a break from her? She’s also very pessimistic and it gets to me sometimes, like makes me start thinking that way, and my mental heath is not great right now either so idk. My older brother and his girlfriend think i should take a break from talking to her but my mom thinks i should fix things and move on so I’m really unsure of what to do. Any and all advice is welcome and I’ll try to answer any questions you may have about this story, ik its a bit jumbled and sorry about the length lol.