Hello, I feel so confused and sad about this situation and i am seeking advice or reassurance. I and my friend (were both in our twentiies) met at work a few years ago. I found them very bubbly, cheerful, and generaly a great fun person. We started chatting regularly and became very close friends. But in the last year or so, the relationship became konda strained on my part. He didnt exactly do anything wrong, but i started noticing some thing i didnt like - they would lead on people for short term fun even tho they knew the people wanted a longer term relationship, and then they (my friend) would dump them. They also tend to be fairly… pityful? And this might be jist clashing with my somewhat strong-willed character, but i hate when people pity me. They would do it constantly even tho i told them i didnt like it. They just said “its a u problem”. They also had a nervous breakdown over the phone once when u told them that i feel burnt out and that everyone uses me as their personal therapist and that i would reply to them for a few days. It was very toxic. Like the “i thought you were my best friend but now i thing we are just colleges” and “well if you want to compete in who has it worse then i just took this medication because i feel so bad” type of toxic. They never really apologized. Since then, i cant really feel safe around them. They tend to brag about how great and wonderful they are (and tell me they are much better then everyone else) but i honestly cant see it. For some reason, their presence drains me and i feel horeible about it, since they are well liked at work and nobody seems to share my pov. Would i be the asshole to let them go? And if no, what should i tell them? Im kinda scated theyll throw another fit that ill have to deescalate.