Throwaway for privacy reasons.

I (20M) am with my (20M) boyfriend for few months, but we know each other since childhood.

To make my story more clear I will give some background as the title is kind of the last straw for me. Tho, I kinda need the advice of someone else as I am autistic and one of my symptoms is alexithymia (which is, more or less, being incapable of understanding or feeling emotions like most of people do) which make my perception of some situations really hard to understand as I need to relay only on my brain. I don’t want to overreact with my decision, but also I worry that I may accidentally use my condition as protect card.

Background/other stuff that makes me think that maybe it’s not the best pair for me and I should break up with him:

First thing that makes me a bit unsure is that this man flirted with me for months then actually dated a guy that is my ex friend, broke up with him and then started to hit on me again.

That ex friend was treating me poorly and was constantly abusing the fact that due my lack of being capable to „be upset” I was really patient with him. I won’t get into details, but he once even sh himself in front of me and do other similar stuff. My man how badly he treated me and some other of our friends, but still kept in contact with him and later dated him. He dumped him after he also did him dirty.

I know he is really sensitive and mostly kept the contact with her, because he’s scared of loosing friends, but it still was kind of weird to me that he decided to date him knowing how a bad person he is. He later told me that he wasn’t really feeling it, but since my ex-friend is hot he gave it a shot.

Second thing that bothers me is that I think he only likes me for my body, which is weird since I am ace and he knows that. He constantly says that I am pretty which in general is rather nice, but I literally cannot watch a movie while cuddling without him getting excited and being kind of pushy about intimacy. Even if I don’t enjoy adult activities myself and I got into a relationship with him being able to sacrifice for him and do it from time to time (around once per two weeks), since I like his personality. What pisses me off is that we can’t play games or lay down without him getting really touchy and asking if we can do it. He usually gets a no, but sometimes he keeps asking until I crack, which later results in some problems as I lack the drive and getting ready to give takes time which also annoys him a bit. After he gets cuddly which is technically cute, but I due sensory issues I really need to get washed off quickly and he gets stubborn as I want to get out of the bed right after. Also he throws used condoms on the floor instead of putting them into the trash which disgusts me. I tried to politely ask him to stop, but I think he doesn’t see it as something worth of changing.

Actual story + where I think I may be an AH:

It happened last weekend as he went to my house and instantly laid down on my bed which lacked the blanket on it, which I repeatedly told him not to do. I don’t like people laying in dirty clothes at my clean bed. I kind of brushed it off even if I knew that I will have to change the sheets later. He was sitting on my bed while I was changing. I put my pajama next to my pillow, where I also had my childhood plushie that I just keep at my room as it has a lot of sentimental value. While I wasn’t looking he just took my pj shirt without asking which already would be enough to make me uncomfortable a bit (I wouldn’t mind him having it, but I just don’t like anyone taking my stuff without asking me). Later that day, after he’s gone I notice it missing and that he also took my childhood plushie that made me go a bit of panic mode as I don’t want anyone touching it. I talked about it to him, he apologized and said that he wanted to have me close to him and that my smell is nice. But is still sitting wrong with me, betrayed my trust and I wonder if I would be an AH if I break up over something so silly as a plushie.

I am texting with him a bit less as I am still a bit salty, but that’s not no contact thing, and he’s blowing my phone that I am inconsiderate of his feelings.