📝 Would I be the AH if I broke up with my boyfriend?

By ExtensivePipeBomb • Score: 2 • April 11, 2025 7:44 AM


Hey, I hope you’re all doing well!

I recently got kicked out and things have been pretty rough for me. I was feeling suicidal a few days back and my boyfriend (of two years) told me he wanted to come get me to make sure I was feeling safe. I hesitantly agreed and sent him some gas money.

Roll around to today, he has this college event at 6. No problem, I know he’s busy and I don’t want to keep him from school things. I told him to do what he would normally do when I’m here. Well after the school event he tells me he’s going to go out and drink with some of the people at the school event. (It’s almost 3am and he’s still not back. With essentially no communication) we’ve talked about communication before and how it’s important.

I’ve been feeling really bad and I’ve voiced that, and he knows I could use some support. It’s hard for me to ask so when I ask it’s for a good reason. He told me he wanted me to come here so I wouldn’t be alone, but that’s exactly what’s happening. It feels unfair because I’m stuck in the apartment while he’s out doing who knows what with friends and people he’s just met. I came here to be with someone who offered me support and I’m not getting that. I always have to remind him of communication and it’s starting to get tiring. I’m starting to feel like maybe I’m the bad guy, and I’m unreasonable for wanting help when help was offered.

Would I be the AH if I left because of this and the continued lack of communication skills?

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