I 18F have a few reasons why I wanna know, I can off the bat say I know I’m a pushover, but I’m tired of feeling the way I do, I constantly bend over backwards and put myself mentally and financially in the burrows, so that the people around me stay afloat, now onto some examples My older brother let’s call him B, moved back to where I’m at now in the beginning of 22’ and I gave him a bunch of clothes and money to get settled here, B. I would go out with my friend and it would seem I was the only one footing the bill every time even in gas C. I am currently working on a relationship with someone who is so negative I will be there all the time and then when I need them they won’t respond Back to the friend thing it’s currently their birthday immediately at like 1 am I messaged them happy birthday later on I posted about their birthday and ran out and got ingredients made them birthday cupcakes and bought them a few gifts, it’s currently almost 10 pm and she keeps putting off me coming to see her till her cousin leaves(I have no problem with the cousin) but I feel like a back burner friend and there when others need me and it’s starting to make me feel in adequate I just wanna know if I’d be the jerk if I stopped putting as much effort in because I am mentally and financially straining myself and I feel like I’m at my wits end right now