Hey I’m looking for advice on what I should do concerning a recent incident with my dad. For context I came out to my parents as trans about 10 months ago and they did not take it very well. I completely cut contact with my mom but kept low contact with my dad as he was a bit less.. aggressive than her. It wasn’t until after the election when I got lunch with him that he told me he had voted for Trump after I had told him “republicans want me dead” the last time I saw him. After that I messaged him saying how disappointed and hurt I was by his decisions and he said “you’re just looking for excuses to hate your family” and “don’t let politics get in the way”. Anyway I responded with saying I didn’t hate my family they assaulted me, berated me, and disowned me when I told them who I really was. Granted I probably could’ve come out to them better/sooner but it’s too late to change that now. Either way he ghosted me after that for months, so I assumed he just blocked me and I went about living my life and going to therapy. Earlier this week a coworker asked about my Facebook (which I don’t really use I just look on the marketplace sometimes) which still had my deadname attached to it. I went ahead and changed my name on there to my preferred name and felt pretty good about it since it always gave me anxiety seeing my old name on there. Well the next day my dad messages me asking why I changed my name and I responded that it was MY name to change. He then said that family and friends could “see what you are now and I’m not ready to accept that.” We had a back and forth that basically ended in him saying that he just misses “[deadname]”. After mulling it over for a bit I’m torn on whether or not I should respond with an ultimatum of accept me or a life without me. I’ve written out a pretty emotional response but I’m not sure if it’s too much? Would I be the asshole for sending it knowing it would hurt his pride and would likely not be a very productive thing to send?