📝 31M seeks advice

By Gprince93 • Score: 2 • April 11, 2025 3:05 PM


My partner 38F together 4 years, 8 months pregnant. We work different shifts at the hospital, I call her once, some times 2x a day to just to chat. I have been on a gym craze routine for 5 weeks now that ate into ALL my gaming time. On the day of the "incident" I went to work, called her on my break, went to the gym, now usually I'd go right into chores, eating and getting ready for bed, and I'd call while washing dishes or cooking. We both don't have work the next day so I decided to play Smash Bros Ultimate because I'm still very much a gamer even if I didn't play for 2 weeks straight. I finally had some leeway in my schedule to enjoy my favorite pastime. I didn't call her, and at 8:47pm she hits me with a text that basically means I'm fugged. Normally, I don't wait up to see her come in because of work the next morning. So I stayed up to we can be together, I even made sure to get off the game and shower before she got in at 12 midnight. She walks in, attitude on full display, doesn't talk to me, I lack the patience and communication skills for people who give me the silent treatment so I went to bed after trying once. She chose to sleep on the couch, which regardless how that sounds, she sleeps better on it for some strange pregnant reason. But I still hate it because it means I won't be close to any my babies. This silent treatment will continue for the entire weekend. What should I do now? Is my inconsistency a problem? Why if I falter, doesn't my significant other, pick up the slack? She easily could've called like "hey, you didn't call me tonight, what are you doing?" Also, you should note that the only time I get calls from her is when she needs something. Is this typical? Is she just being a pregnant person with all the mood swings? Do I have to worry about being placed on child support because I didn't call my girlfriend? Why is being a man such hell on earth?! I went from gaming in my mother's basement, to living with a stranger who hates anything that makes me happy, I work taking care of the mentally ill. I go to therapy for my own mentals, i go to gym for my physicals, i eat as healthy as my financials allow, I'm ecstatic about becoming a father but honestly at times like these, I really want to kms. But at the same time I hate myself for thinking that. Now that I've written all this, I don't want to post because of how trivial or stupid it may seem to the internet. But this is a real struggle for me and my hope is to 1, not bend over backwards for what might seem to be a manipulation technique on her part. Or 2, find out if I'm actually in the wrong and need to do better in her most vulnerable time.

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