Ok my gf is making me feel crazy that I’m insane for feeling this way.

Basically right when me and my gf started dating I found out by goung thru my gfs phone when she was asked that a guy that she had a “talking stage” with 2 years ago, DM’d her recently asking if she had, had sex with me. And she said yea I’m going to and he said but not yet. (Some backstory they talked but never had sex and never dated because she didn’t want to get in a relationship at that time).

Anyways I think that’s really weird and she defended him saying that’s normal and friends do that.i said a dude who u used to have a thing with is in your dms asking about your sex life that is not a normal friend thing at all.

She insists it’s normal and everytime it’s brought up it’s always flipped on me because “how did I get that info” “u went thru my phone without permission.”

I shouldn’t have gone thru her phone without her knowing I agree I messed up there but this is not a friendly guy.

AITA

Edit: just added that the dm was not 2 years ago it was when we were dating. The thing she had with him was 2 years ago. Sorry if that wasn’t clear