I am a 26-year-old woman looking for a life partner. I met a guy on Jeevansathi who earns significantly more than I do—probably three times as much. We had great conversations, talked a lot, and even did a couple of video calls.

We planned to meet, and he initially said he would come to Mumbai. However, he wasn’t feeling well and had just returned from Vietnam, so he suggested that instead of him traveling, I could visit him in Delhi since, according to him, it was the same thing. It was a long weekend, and he invited me over, even booked my flight tickets from Mumbai to Delhi and back.

I had my doubts and wasn’t entirely sure about going, but he reassured me. He even said he would book a hotel for me if I wasn’t comfortable staying at his place, and he followed through on that. When I got there, we had meaningful conversations, laughed a lot, and spent time together. He took me for drives and showed me around. Eventually, things became intimate, and we ended up having sex. Honestly, I wasn’t completely sure if I wanted to, but in the moment, I just went along with it. Though after all this we stayed up till 5 AM and all he talked about his ex how she was a bad person. I listened patiently. He also said he had so fun in 2 days. He never laughed like he laughed with me. He said good things about me.

While he seemed nice overall, there were a few red flags. He asked me to do small tasks like cutting fruits, serving food, preparing salads, and making the bed, but the way he asked made it feel like he was ordering around a servant. That felt a little off to me.

I stayed for two days, and everything seemed fine. But after I returned, I noticed a change—he didn’t seem as interested in me anymore. I keep wondering whether I made a mistake by going. Should I have avoided getting intimate with him? Should I not have gone at all? I really liked him, but now I’m questioning whether he only wanted a fling.

When I confronted him about not talking as much, he simply said he had been tired and busy. In frustration, I deleted his number. I regret it every single day that why did i do it. I feel so confused and don’t know what to think. Should i give him benefit of doubt that he might have been busy in general? I am really confused here.