My husband and I are very good friends with a married couple. We do a lot of things together. We’ve been great friends for a couple years. I love them both and I trust my husband completely. I would like to mention that he has made a mistake before a long time ago and has been so apologetic about it and I really did forgive him for it. He got so drunk once that he danced very sexually with one of our coworkers at a party. He says he was so drunk he doesn’t remember and swears to it to this day. We almost broke up because of it but I believe it was just a mistake and I wanted to work things out with him. And I am not a saint either I have cheated on one past boyfriend before I met my husband and I felt so bad about it, I vowed to never do it again especially to my husband I love him so much. We have such a good relationship and marriage. I never want to or have ever had the desire to cheat on him and even if I did I just wouldn’t because it’s just a destructive act that truly hurts people. And we have a great relationship now. He’s never gotten so drunk that he blacked out again and I trust him. Which is why Im a little surprised that he didn’t tell me that our friends wife had been texting him more lately.Honestly sometimes I do get jealous of my friend’s wife. She texts him individually about the things that they are interested in and it’s been happening more often. He chats with his wife and her husband at the same time online very often and I’m honestly okay with that. I don’t really like talking online so I think this might be stemming from a form of me feeling I’m not always in the loop with their conversations so I think I might be feeling left out in that way but I’m not sure.They have a lot of common interests and I never really let it bother me because the things they talk about just honestly don’t interest me but I still talk to them occasionally online and it’s always a good time. It’s never bothered me before. My husband has a hard time opening up to people in general. His friends are few and far between so I was so happy and relieved he could have friends of his own that he could share common interests and have genuine connections with. We often all hang out together and I have never felt jealous when we are all hanging out together. She’s never given me a reason to feel this way. I really honestly believe she is just a genuinely kind and outgoing person. I’m a lot like her in many ways. I love to talk,interact and socialize with people. I think that’s why we get along so well. It never really crosses my mind. I expressed my feelings about her texting him individually recently and he apologized and said he would set a boundary with her. But I know even if he does enjoy talking her and thinks of her as a good friend I know that it can be flattering when a beautiful person of the opposite sex talks to you often especially for men.I get that it’s just human nature. Woman are just more discreet than men are but I feel like that’s just a common fleeting feeling we all feel sometimes. I know deep down in my heart my husband loves me and would never jeopardize our marriage for someone else. He’s expressed that he does not find her attractive and he sees her as a sister and friend. And I feel the same about her husband but I never text her husband individually. I always make it appoint to text our group chat were it’s just the 4 of us because I am aware that even though we are all friends, I’m not going to text someone else’s husband especially if she’s not in the chat with me. I’m always cautious because I wouldn’t want to make anyone feel uncomfortable especially with their spouse. I understand personally because of my husband and I have had those experiences that I mentioned before I really make an honestly effort to never cross that line. I just try to be aware of that. And my husband is like that as well. He never has bad boundaries with other women so I was surprised to find out that she’s been massaging him about new outfits she’s bought or whether or not we are going to all go out together to hang out soon. The outfit text I can understand because we are all interested in the same style of clothing and she usually texts us both about her and her husband’s new outfits. I think she might just be texting him out of excitement because she just got a new dress in. She was not wearing it in The picture she just posted a picture of it hanging on a hanger and it was not inappropriate at all. She and I have gotten to become good friends and I really do like and appreciate her as a friend.Maybe I’m being sensitive and just surprised that they have been commutative individually lately that I know of. But wouldn’t it be easier and make more sense if she would just text our group chat and message all of us? I think I might be just being a tad too jealous. She is very pretty and successful in her career and I’m still trying to figure out what I want to dedicate myself to as far as a career. I really try to be confident in myself and I can be insecure but I never thought of it as a problem. Her and I both work in the entertainment industry and I’ve never felt this way before. Why am I feeling this way? Am I righteously jealous? It’s just a small misunderstanding or am i overreacting?